Understanding Trauma: The Key to Healing

Are you feeling stuck in your life? It might be time to get the big ‘T’ on Trauma.

Trauma is an emotional response to a distressing or overwhelming event. And if you’re struggling with addiction, chances are you’ve experienced trauma. Here’s the truth, trauma isn’t what happened to you. Trauma is the wound you carry from it. It’s the belief that continues to generate suffering long after the event is over.

What creates trauma is not the event itself, but the fact that we never learned how to truly be with it. We resist the pain it causes, push it away, suppress it, or try to outrun it.

The suffering doesn’t come from the pain itself, it comes from our refusal to accept it.

We start to believe there’s something wrong with us, that we’re broken. That we’ll never feel whole. We lack peace within ourselves, always feeling not enough, constantly craving more, more love, more success, more validation. Anything that makes us feel better, including addictions and distractions.

Because we don’t know how to sit with our pain, we build walls around it. We create defences. We close our hearts. We overcompensate, try too hard, take on too much, or swing the other way and avoid all responsibility.

At its core, trauma is a disconnection from self. We stop loving ourselves. It creates a hardness, a shutting down.

Addictions often arise from an unmet need for connection. You may have never felt truly seen, heard, validated, or enough.

But you can’t let them win. You can’t give the people or situations that hurt you the victory of dimming your light.

The good news? A wound can be healed. It’s never too late.

I work with releasing trauma, because we cannot become the best, most authentic version of ourselves until we begin to face it.